What is love?

I was reading another blog tonight and she wrote that she recently went to a wedding and the bride asked for her opinion on what makes a good marriage. This got me thinking about my relationship.

What makes a good marriage is so different for each couple. There are many times I look at another person's relationship and think "there is no way that would work for me." As I'm sure other people look at my relationship and think the same thing.

But I do know that I have a husband that loves me. He may not speak it in words every day but I know through his actions that he loves me. He isn't sending me flowers on a daily basis or renting a plane to fly a banner professing his love, but he does know the little things to do that make my day just a little brighter or easier.

There are many times I wonder how I got so lucky to have a man that not only does his fair share of household chores and cooking but also loves his kids with everything he has and still has enough time and love to support me in all my crazy adventures.

I know I'm not the easiest person to live with. I have a very strong type A personality. I struggle often with giving up control and having things done my way. And though I know at times he thinks I'm crazy and I catch him smiling and rolling his eyes at me, he will still do it if he knows it will make me happy.

So for me, love is taking the time to say I love you, giving a smile across the room, bringing a soda and brownie to a lunch date, and holding my hand when I'm scared.

I have a really good husband and I really good life. Sometimes I think I just need to slow down to appreciate it. And I really hope he feels the same way.

Sleep Study

Tonight Alyssa goes for a sleep study to find out if she has sleep apnea. They suggested I do this about 6 months ago and I put it on the back burner.
We had a sleep study done for Colin about a month ago and it showed he was having up to 12 apnea issues an hour. At this point I decided it was best to get Alyssa's looked at too.  She already has to have surgery in October to have the tubes in her ears removed, so if we need to do tonsils or adenoids with it we can.

We let her her pick who went with her since Chris had some time off work. She said she wanted Daddy to go with her. I am nervous that I won't be there if she gets scared but I know that Chris is very capable of  taking care of her.

After all we have gone through with Colin in the past week with his tonsils I'm really hoping that hers won't have to be removed, but I have heard that Colin is more on the rare side for that age and that usually they bounce back quicker.

I guess only time will tell, we should have the results in a week.

Alyssa update

I have posted about Colin in the last few rare posts that I have put up, so I wanted to update on Alyssa.

She turned 4.5 on Tuesday! I can't believe what a young little girl she is turning into. Chris and I have started to talk about the path we are going to take for her for kindergarten. She is a very bright little girl and already knows a lot for only being 4. I'm worried that she is going to be bored in school and not enjoy it. So we are discussing our options that are in the area. We have not made a decision and I can't even say we are more inclined one way or another at this point.
Alyssa can count to about 20 with accuracy. She can recognize all of her letter and is getting better with her numbers. She can write her name, knows her address and is learning her phone number. She has become really good at tracing and coloring.
 We are still working on cutting and other super fine motor skills.
She loves to help and will help fix dinner, or clean up with ease. Today she spent the day outside with Chris and she came up with ideas on how to make the wood they were cutting to fall quieter, and was able to sweep the garage without help.
Alyssa has very strong opinions and ideas on many things and it is fun and frustrating at the same time to watch those ideas come into focus.

I am one lucky mom to have such a wonderful little girl!  

Tonsil removal

On Monday Colin had his tonsils removed. When he woke up from surgery he was in a lot of pain. In fact we were never able to get in front of the pain until 2:30 Tuesday morning. We spent Monday night in the hospital and from Monday at 4:00PM until 1:00 PM on Tuesday Colin refused to eat or drink anything.
We finally went back to the thing that has gotten us out of the hospital twice before and had Chris bring a milkshake. He drank that all down so we had Grandma bring another one. When he drank that one We called the nurse to ask the doctor if we could go home that night. Finally about 6:45 PM on Tuesday night we were released from the hospital. He was on tylenol every 4 hours and oxycontin every 4 hours that were separated by 2 hours. So every two hours he was getting a medicine.
We are now on Sunday we still have not been able to space his medicine out. Every time we try he turns into a drooling horrible mess. He is also starting to cough more than he was in the hospital. It is a wet cough but doesn't seem to be bringing anything up so I am a little concerned about that.
  I think I will be putting a call into the doctor tomorrow to see what we can do about all of that.

Tonsil removal has been the hardest surgery he has gone through so far. He is miserable a fair amount of the time and you can just see in his face that he is in a lot of pain still. I'm really hoping in the next day he will turn the corner and start to feel better.